I Love My Wife So F**King Much

i love my wifeI love my wife so f**king much that I can’t imagine a life without her and lil’ ol’ alienated me never thought such words would ever pass my lips. Nor did I ever imagine that saying such a thing would make me so happy or even weep with joy.

Ten years ago today my beautiful wife Caitlin and I went to the drive-through wedding chapel in Las Vegas, Nevada and got hitched. Ten years on we have two children and a marriage that I feel can endure all hardships. And that is because of my wife who consistently blows my mind with her honesty and compassion and curiosity among many other things.

My darling wife Caitlin has taught me so much, and I will admit to once saying to her, early on in our relationship, “What do you have to teach me?” What a dick! We actually broke up soon after that most likely because of my unwillingness to have children. When we got back together it was a fait accompli that children were in the pipeline and I surrendered.

Not everyone has the platform to extol the virtues of their spouse so I am very appreciative that I have a blog where I can share publicly how wonderful my wife Caitlin is. Why do I love my wife the way I do? Here are a few reasons:

  • Why wife accepts me completely for who I am, and trust me I am a piece of work. She lets and encourages me to be me, which is amazingly empowering.
  • She doesn’t want me to change unless I want to change.
  • She thanks me for the smallest and largest of acts and has taught me to do the same for her. As a result we live in a house of appreciation that resonates in many ways. While thanks for making breakfast or doing the laundry might seem small and inconsequential it brings joy to our surroundings on a consistent basis.
  • She listens to and respects our children as individuals and helps me to be a less reactionary parent which is way more difficult for me than it should be.
  • She knows herself, and has done the work to improve. It is easy to take the lessons that your parents gave you and live by their blueprint. Caitlin has put in the effort to expand on the good she was given and process through that which might have held her back. We are all the products of where we come from but she has truly made the most of the emotional baggage that she carried into adulthood.

Not to be too honest—or pathetic— but I am a classic neurotic who, when not in the role of teacher, finds it difficult to deal with people.  So the greatest gift I have received and I am not sure how it has come to pass, but in the fourteen years we have been together I have never ever wanted to be anywhere else when I am with my amazing and delightful wife.

I can’t imagine a life without Caitlin who makes every day a beautiful one to the best of her ability. I marvel at how lucky my children Ida and Reggie are to have her as their mother. Not that I am a bad dad but in so many ways I am way less evolved than my wife.

She offers them her heart in its entirety and it reflects in the smiles on their faces and the compassion that I see come through their actions.

I bow down at the feet of my amazing wife who has made my life something very much worth living.

Happy anniversary Casey!